When considering wellbeing do you also consider your behaviour towards others?

23 Jul 2021 12:14 PM

Blog posted by: Rosemary Mathews, 21 Jul 2021.

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Mental health and wellbeing have become hot topics, especially on the work front with employers being asked to look after their staff by developing wellbeing strategies and initiatives that will support them and eventually lead to a wellbeing culture.

The pandemic has made us all more aware of our own wellbeing and about looking after ourselves. There have been many articles on this subject and comments made about the importance of being kind and considerate to others, too. One of APM’s values is ‘warm’ and we like to think that’s how we come across when we interact with others, even in challenging circumstances.

Taking note of our wellbeing, and being kind and considerate isn’t just for our families and co-workers. It’s also in the way we handle things that crop up in our day to day lives. Social media and digital platforms make it much easier nowadays to vent our frustration to the point of rudeness. While ‘having a vent’ or posting a sarcastic comment online may feel perfectly normal to many of us these days, this is not considering someone else’s wellbeing. It’s important to think about how easily a negative comment can cross the line into something that offends or upsets someone else. It could also have potential knock-on effects for the person at the opposite end who is dealing with the situation.

This also applies when sending an email or talking on the phone. If you’re unhappy with a situation or believe something hasn’t been done correctly, you’re entitled to express your opinion. However, think about how you come across; be professional and provide constructive feedback. Having a rant or venting your anger will negatively affect the person at the other end of the phone or email. You can still get your point of view across if it’s done in a pleasant and civil manner. The person at the receiving end will be more willing to help if you remain calm and polite. In fact, studies have shown that a courteous approach not only has a positive effect on wellbeing, but can also strengthen social and workplace relationships by producing positive emotional states and helping people cope better with stress.

There are numerous ways that people can be rude or aggressive to others in everyday situations without even realising it. Do you recognise any of the below?

For those of you who do consider yourselves prone to having a rant, ‘telling it like it is’ or ‘just blowing off steam’, should you not be questioning your own behaviour? Are you practicing what you preach? Are you someone who has ‘liked’ a wellbeing article or mentioned being kind and considerate in a recent post, but then been (unintentionally) rude or aggressive to the person at the end of the line if you aren’t happy with something?

Considering people’s feelings and thinking about their wellbeing should be just as important as your own wellbeing and mental health. After all, they’re only doing their job in very demanding and difficult circumstances. Coronavirus has put many people under immense pressure. A thought for their good mental wellbeing is surely a step in the right direction.

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About the Author

Rosemary Mathews

Rosemary is director of people strategy & facilities at APM. She has nearly 20 years of experience in Human Resources (HR) and a demonstrable record of driving positive change in organisations at a strategic and operational level. During her career she has successfully delivered restructuring projects, managed Transfer of Undertakings (Protection of Employment) (TUPE), overseen growth management initiatives, increased performance standards through people management, implemented system updates and led on talent acquisition.